Feeling Invisible

It isn’t hard to feel invisible in the world today.  So much is going on, and thanks to the internet, the conversation never stops.  It easier than ever to feel like no one sees us.

The trick is to ask yourself:

How do I want to be seen?

I don’t think there is a more important question we could ask ourselves.  Despite what people say, there is nothing we can do to make people notice us.  All we can control is how people see us if they stumble upon us.

Some people call this personal branding… I hate that term.  I am not a Coke!  I have a reputation not a brand!

Authentically Me

I love to see how people react to me when they first meet me.  I am an open book, and many have learned at their own peril not to ask me questions they don’t want me to answer honestly.

You see, in 1997, I lost everything.  My three best friends turned their back on me…

One of them, stole my identity, my college fund, got me evicted from my house, turned my other friends against me, and didn’t even understand how that could have upset me.  I was devastated.  My life in rumble around me, I learned the most important lesson of my life: Never lie to anyone!

I invested years in a relationship with a person who had no intention of being my friend.  He only wanted to use me to make his life better, screw the consequences.

I decided right then and there to be honest with everyone I meet.  No games, no lies.  If people don’t like me for who I am, then they are not the people I need to have around me.  In return, I ask one thing of the people in my life:

Never Lie to me

Trust is a two way road.  I am willing to bear my soul and be authentically who I am at all times, the very least I can expect in return from other people is that they will never lie to me.

I tell people that.  “I consider you a friend now.  I have been honest with you, and I expect you to do the same.  If I ever find out you have lied to me from this point on, I am not sure I can remain friends with you.”

Yeah, it is a little blunt, but that is how I am.  I don’t expect everyone to be as open as I am, but I expect them to be honest in their dealings with me.

Stop worrying about being noticed

It is far more important to consider what people see when you are noticed.  If you are a decent person, they will spread the word.  The truth will always win out.

How do you see your relationships with others?

Do you think there are any other traits besides honesty and authenticity we should expect from each other?

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No Record Industry, No New KISS Album... I have an Idea

gene In a recent interview, Gene Simmons from Kiss made a strange statement that shows why the record labels and the older artists are not moving forward.

"There's no new KISS material because there's no record industry.

"Any band who tries to do new material is trying to climb a slippery mountain. Every day record companies are folding. It'd be nice to have new KISS songs, but what's the business model? Do you just put songs on the Internet for free? Then what?''

Then you sell quality merchandise, tour, and do other things that make people want to buy your music.

Personally, I think the best thing artists can do is give away their music videos. This lets people like me listen to the song over and over again, and figure out if I really like it enough to buy it.

Between the streaming music videos and other streaming tracks, I can determine whether I want to spend my money on the track or the album.

The Key is to make good music and to have confidence in your own fans.

The very idea that Gene doubts whether the Kiss Army would buy a new album or steal it is a sad lack of faith in his own music.


Shrek the Third

Everyones favorite green ogre is back, and the trailer is out: (see it here) This is one of the funniest trailers I have every seen.  A good time had by all.

I am a huge fan of the first two flicks, and can't wait to see this one.

When Shrek married Fiona, the last thing he had in mind was becoming the next King. But when Shrek's father-in-law, King Harold, suddenly croaks, that is exactly what he faces. Unless Shrek (with the help of his trusted companions Donkey and Puss In Boots) can find a suitable King for Far Far Away, the ogre could be stuck with the job. The most promising candidate, Fiona's cousin Artie, an underachieving Medieval high school slacker, proves to be a more of a challenge than they bargained for (Moviephone via AOL).

BTW: Justin Timberlake is playing cousin Artie... I hope he does a good job, but I am a little concerned about that.

Dizzy Web Site and the Triumphant Update

C.E. Dorsett Victory is mine!! The design document is finished, and Project: Shadow is entering a new era. There are a lot of deals in the works that I can't discuss just yet, but trust me... you all will be the first to know.

This update is the site appearance, and our first music review:

Roadrunner United, the All Star Sessions